First impressions and the psychology of connecting...
This is a brief look at the psychology when new people initiate relations on Google+
As a writer with a psychological twist I have been analysing what happens when "someone new" comments for the first few times on threads.Have you had this experience?
You are reading comments from familiar faces, and then, you come across someone new i.e. an "unfamiliar" name.
So often I find myself wanting to understand the intention behind a comment being made.
Does the person want to "play"?
Are their intentions [please insert Nineteenth Century London gentleman voice here]* honourable?
Are they looking to connect through engagement?
And so on...
I have recently found myself wanting to know the context of many comments on public threads.
Some people put real effort into what they are saying and I enjoy understanding more about "where they are coming from".
So, here is an illustration of how we build up context:1.Hoverover the name
- this will give you an instant impression.
The image they use on their profile pic - when it is a "face" we will interpet their expression, for instance.
Someone smiling is more likely to be responded to positvely as we have position associates with that; business attire, however, will give a professional impression; someone with empty pizza boxes having been strewn everywhere and in a state of undress, you start building a picture.
Then you click to see more...2. Profile and images
- images are a way to give "snapshots" of someone's world, or more accurately on Google+, who they want to display themselves to be in the world. If there are no images, it is hard to make a first impression.3. About me
- what they say about themselves is illuminating. The way they use language can be interpreted as a reflection of their internal processing. Our thoughts create the words and the words are then displayed on the page, giving context to part of a person's life.4. What they have posted really matters
- stating the obvious, but the content itself will give you information about them.
If they are just forwarding key people's posts then they are probably "reaching out" towards them.
If they are writing their own posts but no-one is +1ing, sharing, commenting, then you know that people are not engaging with them
Or if they are writing good content, creating images, sending on jokes etc and all of this is being received well it will give you another view of them.5. Number of people circled (and them having circled)
- this can give you an idea of where they are at with their Google+ journey. If they only have 20 people in their circles and 20 people circle them, then they are unlikely to understand the cultures into which they are entering.
Whatever first impressions we make will be down to our own psychology. I notice the more information I can gather about the context of comments, the more likely it is that I will engage further with people.
Simple stuff but essential when building online relationships.
All the best with connecting further!
*This feature can be retro-fitted as a plug in at some future point in time :P+Making Google Plus Work